When a baby is brought into this world it is one of the most joyous experiences anyone can have! Yet there are so many people who begin to resent what they baby does to the family system. It is true that when a baby comes into the home things have to change. Typically it is the mother who stays at home and develops a closer relationship to the baby. While the father is off investing his time into work or other activities. This does not always have to be the case.
Things can be different between the husband and wife long before the baby is born. As husband and wife are preparing to be mothers and fathers they can both be involved in the different stages of pregnancy. As the baby continues to grow and kick within the mother have the father feel what is going on inside and describe to him what it feels like. Take prenatal classes together and go to all the doctor's visits together.
One really important thing a mother can do after the baby is born is to let the father be a father. Don't exclude him from anything and if he does something that scares you give him a couple of suggestions of how to do it better and explain why. Don't yell at him and let him feel worse about his fathering skills. Babies bring out a range of emotions in all of us but they bring out the happiest emotions of all. 
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